I am going to start by staying that there is nothing wrong with being yourself. No one on this earth was created to be exactly the same. The world would be dull and boring if everyone were the same. Even twins who appear to look alike are different. It hurts my heart to see women be something they are not or act like something they are not. Women are a powerful human being. We can make things happen without even making a sound. When we walk into a room the atmosphere changes and there is a certain level of expectations that need to be met. Women are beautiful!
When did you stop liking who you have become?
It is worth putting up this persona and being someone your not to please others?
Do you even know who you are anymore?
Have you ever written a check and paid attention to the carbon copy behind it? Yes, it has all of the appearances of the original but doesn’t hold any value. What’s the point in spending your life trying to mimic something your not when all the while God created you an ORIGINAL. Who you are holds value!
I am a loud, opinionated, beautiful, intelligent and an awesome woman. I have no problem showing the world who I am. I have a very low tolerance for unprofessionalism and being unladylike. I can say this because it took me years to finally be comfortable with my boldness. Growing up the expectation was to focus on school and getting good grades. I was never old enough to have an opinion about anything, my mouth was to stay shut and be presentable. I did not have the mother daughter relationship where I can talk to my mother about life or what I was dealing with in life. My parents were very strict and had a no-nonsense attitude, if it wasn’t about school you had no business discussing it or being apart of it. I guess that is were I get my seriousness and professionalism from. I spent all my time trying to be the perfect student. I like to be organized and put In the effort to get things done. Even if we were doing a simple assignment about history, I was the one burning the edges of paper and laminating it to make it look like an actual article. Its all about effort and standing out.
I was scared, scared to speak up and ask to do things. I appreciate that now about my parents because my expectations for people are high and thats just me. You tell me you can’t do something and I will ask you why not? I have no problem being real with people if its going to push them to be better. I tend to challenge people in a good way to prove that they can be better than what they were yesterday. All in the same loving them because there is a difference in encouraging people and bullying them. My parents were the no nonsense type of parents and I try to be a little like them but at the same time be the mother I needed when I was growing up. I am not confrontational and I will give everyone the benefit of the doubt. I will never try to change anyone because that is not my job.
Its perfectly alright to look up to someone as long as you remember to always be you. Right now I follow many famous women on social media and I am not ashamed to say that I scroll through their feeds to see what they do, what they eat and what they wear. Does my confidence get tested, yes, still in all I remain humble in knowing that I have worked hard to get to where I am. Be confident in who you are, in your attitude and in the way of thinking. Always keep is classy, change the atmosphere for the positive and teach other how to be great. Be the lady that challenges others to be classy, professional and loving. If you don’t know how to bring all of this out of yourself find a woman who you look up to and ask her to help you be a better version of YOURSELF.
I’m me and there is no one else in the world who can be me. I am uniquely and wonderfully made!