Why is it so difficult for women to fix each other’s crowns without telling the world it was crooked? It’s like we crave attention regardless if we are spreading positivity or negativity about someone else. I blame this a lot of social media. We scroll through those feeds and say I wrote that post better or say but I have so much more success than her, so why is she there. Don’t you get it? Women are powerful and emotional human beings. We need to learn how to utilize that power for good instead of tearing each other down. We need to learn how to congratulate and complement one another on the milestones we have each accomplished no matter how small they are. We need to learn how to have each other’s back because at the end of the day sometimes that is all we have... each other! I see it all too often. I see competition, jealousy and negativity towards each other and for what? For attention! You need to be the woman that motivates others to be the best version of themselves. You need to be the woman others can go to for advice or simply for an ear so they can vent. You need to be the woman that celebrates other women when they are doing great and help them when they are not. We go through life trying to prove to each other that we are better than one another…WHY? WHY, must we be a better mom? WHY, must we be a better wife? WHY, must we be a better sibling? WHY, must we be a better a Christian? . . . . WHY? If we feel that we are so much better at life than everyone else why aren’t we lifting each other up? Why aren’t we showing our new moms how to be moms, how to be wives, how to value a job and how to believe in themselves? I think about the relationship between Naomi and Ruth. If you do not know about Naomi and Ruth then I urge you to take some time and read the book of Ruth. It is a beautiful story about how one woman’s life encouraged another woman to want more out of hers. Sometimes you don’t even have to say a word. The way you live your life can impact someone else to want more out of theirs. Naomi’s life changed Ruth and she returns the favor of showing God’s love to her friend by supporting Naomi in the good times and the bad. What does this tell us? This means that Naomi had to be an awesome mother-in-law who imparted her belief into Ruth allowing her to see the God in her. I can relate to Ruth here because getting married at the age of 19 my mother-in-law has imparted so many great things into my life. I am confident in saying that most of the things I know now about being a women of God came from my mother-in-law. So I can understand the connection that they had. Ruth was with Naomi for almost 10 years and saw her go from being a wife and a mother to being a childless widow. Nevertheless she kept her faith in God and Ruth was greatly impacted by Naomi’s faith that she never left her side. Even when Naomi felt she had nothing else to give, she told Ruth I have no sons for you go back to your people. Ruth and answered in Ruth 1:16, “Don’t beg me to leave you or to stop following you. Where ever you go, I will go. Where you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my god.” Do you know why this verse is so powerful. Because Ruth didn’t know God before she met Naomi, she met God through Naomi. For some reason we cling to people who “look like” they got it all together but the moment we see them going through, we are nowhere to be found. Why? Why can’t we be like Ruth? For a lot of us it is easy for us to ask our leaders for help or an encouraging word but we do not offer them the same? Is it because we think they got it all together? Outside of these four walls they work, have kids, are married and go through the same stuff you go through. Trust me we do! It doesn’t take much to pick up the phone and encourage your leaders. This gesture, no matter how small it may seem to you, it could mean the world to them. We are all leaders one way or another. Whether we are parents, supervisors, church leaders or simply a role model to someone. We should always be willing to help someone live their best life. Take it one step at a time, one day at a time. If this is completely out of your comfort zone, count it as a victory each day you lift someone else up. Start small... Tell another women she is beautiful, that she is a great mother, a great wife, tell her that she is brilliant because you never know if your words are the only positive thing that she has heard all day. Find out what goals they have and help them get started. You can connect them with the resources to help them start a business, you can help them start a website or you can help them find their way back in to school. Feed off of positivity rather than negativity and you will live a happier life!
Why can’t we go to each other as day... Hey queen your crown is crooked let me help you straighten it out you are BOLD... you are STRONG... Hey queen your crown is crooked let me help you straighten it out you are BEAUTIFUL... you are COURAGEOUS... Hey queen your crown is crooked let me help you straighten it out you are BRILLIANT... you are SUCCESSFUL... you are CLASSY... And all around beautifully and wonderfully made.