I WILL NOT APOLOGIZE
For those who do not know or do not believe in Mom/Wife guilt, let me tell you that this thing is real.
What is it exactly? It’s when a woman feels bad for doing something for themselves that causes them not to do something at home or for their family. How does it feel? I would compare the feeling to buyer’s remorse. You know the feeling where you purchase something and feel as if you could have used the money for something else? Same feeling, guilt.
Believe it or not this feeling happens in women often and the feeling is overwhelming. We neglect ourselves so much to make sure our family has everything they need but in all reality what they need is us to be present and in our right mind. I will be very transparent, a few months ago I started feeling my anxiety act up and I haven’t felt it in a long time. I was inpatient, overwhelmed and I had an attitude all the time. It wasn’t fair to my family or to myself that I felt this way, so I decided to take a day to myself and do absolutely nothing. I dropped the kids off at school and I went back home, sat on the couch and did nothing. I didn’t even answer my phone! Sounds selfish right, but it was what I needed. I needed to be alone for a few hours, so I could destress and relax. I need a few hours of silence to clear my mind and rest my body.
That was the best thing I have done for myself in a long time and I will not apologize for it. I will not feel bad for taking a day for myself and you shouldn’t either. You work hard, and life can be mentally draining. There is nothing wrong with needed some time for yourself.
No, you are not a bad mother because you decided to cook your kid’s hot dogs for dinner instead of a 3-course meal.
No, you are not a bad wife because you decided to leave the laundry unfolded for a few days.
No, you are not a bad person because you decided to take a nap during movie time.
Do not apologize for making things a little easier for yourself. You need to be the best version of yourself for your family. You should not neglect yourself, it’s not healthy and it’s not fair. Take care of yourself ladies, your family needs you and if you do not know how, reach out to a fellow woman and ask her for help. We as women need to help each other out.
Love Jo
What is it exactly? It’s when a woman feels bad for doing something for themselves that causes them not to do something at home or for their family. How does it feel? I would compare the feeling to buyer’s remorse. You know the feeling where you purchase something and feel as if you could have used the money for something else? Same feeling, guilt.
Believe it or not this feeling happens in women often and the feeling is overwhelming. We neglect ourselves so much to make sure our family has everything they need but in all reality what they need is us to be present and in our right mind. I will be very transparent, a few months ago I started feeling my anxiety act up and I haven’t felt it in a long time. I was inpatient, overwhelmed and I had an attitude all the time. It wasn’t fair to my family or to myself that I felt this way, so I decided to take a day to myself and do absolutely nothing. I dropped the kids off at school and I went back home, sat on the couch and did nothing. I didn’t even answer my phone! Sounds selfish right, but it was what I needed. I needed to be alone for a few hours, so I could destress and relax. I need a few hours of silence to clear my mind and rest my body.
That was the best thing I have done for myself in a long time and I will not apologize for it. I will not feel bad for taking a day for myself and you shouldn’t either. You work hard, and life can be mentally draining. There is nothing wrong with needed some time for yourself.
No, you are not a bad mother because you decided to cook your kid’s hot dogs for dinner instead of a 3-course meal.
No, you are not a bad wife because you decided to leave the laundry unfolded for a few days.
No, you are not a bad person because you decided to take a nap during movie time.
Do not apologize for making things a little easier for yourself. You need to be the best version of yourself for your family. You should not neglect yourself, it’s not healthy and it’s not fair. Take care of yourself ladies, your family needs you and if you do not know how, reach out to a fellow woman and ask her for help. We as women need to help each other out.
Love Jo