I have been called a bad parent several times because I work a full time job.The world has painted a fake picture of what a good mommy should act like on social media and in movies! In a perfect world a good mommy wakes up early, cooks a full breakfast, makes coffee or a smoothie, drops her kids off at school, goes to work, picks her kids up from school, helps with homework, cook dinner by 5pm, bathes the kids, has family time, reads bed time stories and snuggles with the hubby at the end of the day!
I have never ever had the day I just described and if you do this on the regular, sister I bow down! Don’t get my wrong I know it’s possible because my mom has done it for 31 years now but the way my life is structured I cannot.
I’m lucky if I can remember to comb my hair in the morning or even have a chance to eat dinner before 9pm SERIOUSLY! Just because i don’t do these things does not make me a bad mom or a bad wife! I do things my own way! The day i was called a bad parent it broke me to the point where i cried for days and contemplated quitting my job so i can prove that i was not a bad mom! However what would have that proved? I would have been an unemployed mom at that point! Even today I get upset with myself because I believed it!
The world will do that to you! You will begin to question yourself and drive yourself crazy trying to prove yourself. You start to believe that because you are not like that mom you see down your news feed that you are a bad mom! Well guess what WHO CARES WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK! They don’t live your life you do!
I want you to remember this...Each and every one of you is a good parent in your own way! You were created for this! God will never put more on you then you can bear and honey women can bear a lot.
You may be the mom that remembers each holiday and buys goodies for the class but i can’t even remember what day it is and that’s OK! Because when i get off work I’m rushing to pick up my girls and headed to gymnastics for 3 hours to scream my head off! You may be able to go home and cook dinner before 5pm, I can’t because when we are not at gymnastics we are headed to church for praise and worship practice or a church meeting and homework is done in the car.
So what are the rules? What defines you as a good mom? No one can really answer that question but to me it’s BEING PRESENT!
That’s the most important thing about being a parent! Be present! Listen to your kids, help your kids and guide them! Just because you are not a “social media mom who documents every single moment” does not mean you are a bad mom! Let’s keep it real half the pictures are staged anyway!
I don’t have time to document every single moment I’m too busy being a mommy. Besides if i document every single moment of my day it will probably be someone’s birth control!
MOMS! No matter how hard it gets and no matter how long it takes you to achieve your goals DON'T GIVE UP! If you have to work then work, if you have to go to school then go to school! You have worked too hard to get to where you are today and your babies are watching you! You are their superwoman and the least you can do is show them how not to give up!
-You are not a bad mom you are spectacular!
My name is Jomaira, I live in the Windy City with my 3 girls and my High School sweetheart Marcus. I love God, creating lifestyle videos, blogging, decorating, organizing and coffee. Everything I share is based on real thoughts and real life experiences!
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