I think every hair type is beautiful. I believe there is a moment where we go through a phase and do not like our hair. So we straighten, perm it, color it or cut it but eventually, yes eventually we embrace it!
I am the only person in my family with curly hair. Both my sister and mother have wavy hair. Growing up my mother did not know how to style my hair so i would often go to school with a head full of frizz up until 6th grade. In 7th grade I discovered “Hair Spray” and i am not joking when i say that i had the slickest and crunchiest pony tail at school. As i grew older I learned to how straighten my hair which meant less time doing my hair and more time getting out of the house! I look for quick easy things to do so most days it’s really up a mom bun! Regardless on what I do to my hair I absolutely love my curls and often spend time restoring the curls.
God has blessed me with 3 curly little girls. Their hair is extremely curly, curls from root to end. Well the first two do we are still trying to figure out Aria. Maiya has a lot of hair. Since it is so curly it soaks up everything you put in it and tangles very easily. I remember the day when she told me, “ I hate my hair.” When i asked her why she said,” because it’s ugly and i get more compliments when it’s straight.” It hurt me so much to hear that my little girl hated something about herself especially when i am constantly telling her how beautiful she is. After that I refused to straighten her hair and she resulted to wearing buns everyday. One day her hair was tangled so bad it took me 3 hours to detangle and that’s when i said enough is enough. I took her to get her hair cut and shaped. We cut it short enough where she couldn’t do a bun and made it round, you know like the curly girls wear it now. Marcus does not like it when we cut our hair so he wasn’t thrilled that i cut it this short but i had to do something to fix her hair and hopefully get her to see the beauty in her curls. When the lady finished, Maiya looked in the mirror and said, “ OH MY GOD I LOVE IT!”
I swear it felt like the heavens opened up and the angels sang!
After years of telling her how beautiful she was and how i would love to have her hair i realized that all i had to do was show her. From that day forward i taught her how to use cream based products to keep her hair healthy (we live by Cantu in my house, coconut everything) and today she is rocking A BIG BEAUTIFUL CURLY AFRO. She has no problem picking her hair out putting leave in conditioner in it and walking out the door. Her confidence went through the roof.
Of course when she first wore her hair down to school there were comments being made about crazy big hair, because kids are mean but she brushed it off and told them ,”this is my hair and i love it!” Now they know shes the girl rocking big hair and that is who she is, that is her signature. Understand it took us years to get her to love her hair. There are so many girls out there who do not like something about themselves, they do not have anyone telling them how beautiful they are. I had to constantly keep complimenting her hair and saying how beautiful she is! It was an everyday conversation but i had to do it. Superwoman, If your little one is going through something similar never stop complimenting them because when they begin to think negative about their appearance they will hear your voice telling them otherwise!
If you are going through this right now and you hate something about yourself remember NO ONE CAN DO YOU BETTER THAN YOU CAN. Embrace it and make it your signature! Nothing is more beautiful than a confident woman! Remember you are a SUPERWOMAN.