It’s Hard Making Friends as a Mom!
It’s hard making friends as a mom, especially a working mom. I can actually count how many working mommy friends I have that can relate to me on a mom and wife level. Often times than not our lives begin to look like a marry-go- round. Going round and round in a circle day after day. We go to work, take the kids to their activities, then go home and repeat the next day.
When you become a working mom your whole life and schedule changes. I was in denial about this statement when I first became a parent and I have tried hanging out with old friends after work. However it never failed, I would always end up falling asleep during game night. Not only was it embarrassing but it also resulted in fewer invites.
The best way to have a healthy friendship when your a mom is to find someone you can relate with. Who cares if all you talk about are your kids. That’s what you have in common. This is one of the reasons I love technology! As you all know with my schedule I am literally ripping and running from place to place. I go from work to gymnastics or church and then home. So texting and social media are my key ways to interact with my mommy friends until I can find a free moment in my schedule to plan something with them. This is what works for me and my mommy friends understand that.
Use your resources find a mommy group on social media if you don’t have any mommy friends near you. Another great idea is to make friends at the extra activities you have to attend. Have a soccer mom friend, a church friend, a gymnastics mom friend or a work friend. Having mommy friends you can relate with is important for your sanity because you can bounce ideas off of each other and lift each other up. Even though my husband is my best friend , what I can talk about with my friends I cannot talk about with my husband because then I’m nagging (seriously). I need to know what to do to potty train my strong willed 3 year old, how to make sure I cook dinner every night and how to handle my workaholism. Exchange ideas and implement new ones to make life easier.
My fellow mommy friend, you need to be friends with people who get you. Your responsibilities have changed so your mindset and surrounding have to change as well. You may not have as much free time as before but only your fellow mommy friends will understand that because they are going through the same thing. Do not let anyone make you feel like you are not worthy of friendship because of your lifestyle. Think about it, this is only temporary. One day when your kids are older you will have time for lunch and coffee dates but for right now they need you to survive.
Love Jo
When you become a working mom your whole life and schedule changes. I was in denial about this statement when I first became a parent and I have tried hanging out with old friends after work. However it never failed, I would always end up falling asleep during game night. Not only was it embarrassing but it also resulted in fewer invites.
The best way to have a healthy friendship when your a mom is to find someone you can relate with. Who cares if all you talk about are your kids. That’s what you have in common. This is one of the reasons I love technology! As you all know with my schedule I am literally ripping and running from place to place. I go from work to gymnastics or church and then home. So texting and social media are my key ways to interact with my mommy friends until I can find a free moment in my schedule to plan something with them. This is what works for me and my mommy friends understand that.
Use your resources find a mommy group on social media if you don’t have any mommy friends near you. Another great idea is to make friends at the extra activities you have to attend. Have a soccer mom friend, a church friend, a gymnastics mom friend or a work friend. Having mommy friends you can relate with is important for your sanity because you can bounce ideas off of each other and lift each other up. Even though my husband is my best friend , what I can talk about with my friends I cannot talk about with my husband because then I’m nagging (seriously). I need to know what to do to potty train my strong willed 3 year old, how to make sure I cook dinner every night and how to handle my workaholism. Exchange ideas and implement new ones to make life easier.
My fellow mommy friend, you need to be friends with people who get you. Your responsibilities have changed so your mindset and surrounding have to change as well. You may not have as much free time as before but only your fellow mommy friends will understand that because they are going through the same thing. Do not let anyone make you feel like you are not worthy of friendship because of your lifestyle. Think about it, this is only temporary. One day when your kids are older you will have time for lunch and coffee dates but for right now they need you to survive.
Love Jo