 Twenty years of being a mom… wow, just typing that feels crazy. When you’ve been in the trenches, the milestones, the chaos, and the quiet moments for two decades, you start to realize motherhood teaches you things you didn’t even know you needed to learn. Some lessons come soft and sweet. Others come loud, messy, and wrapped in a Target bag with snacks spilled at the bottom.
But these are the three that have shaped me the most: 1. Work Life Balance Doesn’t Exist. And Honestly… It’s a Myth. Let me go ahead and set somebody free today: There is no such thing as perfect balance. None. Zero. Zip. For years, I tried to chase this imaginary finish line, the idea that one day I’d have my career lined up perfectly, my home running smoothly, my kids thriving, my schedule color coded, and myself looking unbothered and fabulous. Sis… no. Some days I was a phenomenal mom and a hot mess everywhere else. Other days, I was killing it at work and feeding the kids corn dogs for dinner. And some days, everything fell apart and I had to choose peace over perfection. What I’ve learned is this: life comes in seasons. Some seasons demand more from you at home, some at church, some at work, and some from your own heart. Balance isn’t real, but priorities are. And I am learning to honor whatever needs my attention most in the moment without guilt. 2. You Are the Magic. Always Have Been. Listen, kids can make you question every skill, talent, and ounce of patience you thought you had. But motherhood has a way of revealing just how powerful you really are. You’re the safe place. You’re the calm in the storm. You’re the voice they listen for. You’re the one who turns nothing into something. You’ve been the magic all along, the glue, the softness, the structure, the joy, the comfort, the memory maker, the miracle worker. And even on the days you feel depleted, stretched thin, or unsure, your presence is still shaping their world in ways you won’t fully understand until they’re grown. Motherhood doesn’t require perfection. It requires presence. And that’s where your magic lives. 3. Have Fun. Always. No Matter What Season You’re In. If motherhood has taught me anything, it’s that joy is a choice, and it’s a choice you have to make on purpose. Have fun. Always. Laugh when the plans fall apart. Dance in the kitchen. Say yes to the silly moments. Make memories that don’t cost a thing. Let your kids see you smile, not just out of obligation, but out of genuine joy. Life is going to throw enough seriousness your way. Don’t let your home be another place where joy goes missing. I’ve learned that my kids remember the fun moments more than the flawless ones. They remember my laughter more than my stress. And honestly, so do I. Twenty Years In… and I’m Still Growing Motherhood doesn’t come with a manual, but it does come with lessons, the kind that shape you, stretch you, humble you, and bless you all at the same time. Twenty years later, I’m still learning, still adjusting, and still choosing joy. And if these three lessons have carried me this far, I know they’ll keep guiding me through whatever comes next. Here’s to the journey. Here’s to the growth. And here’s to all the moms still figuring it out, just like me.
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