Those close to me know I am notorious for having a plan for everything. I need to have a plan or a schedule in order to function. I would even say that I “plan my life,” but I have to. I don’t think it’s a mom thing it’s just a me thing. I overthink everything and i don’t like surprises.
Here is an example of how I plan my days just to give you an idea. During the school year I wake up at 5am, get the kids ready for school, drop the kids off, come back home to work my corporate job, pick up my kids on my lunch, then come back home to finish my work day. That was my schedule, that was my routine Monday- Friday. So when summer break came and my schedule was thrown off, it effected me mentally and physically. I no longer woke up at 5am which resulted in my body being tired. My kids were home all day and my house was no longer quiet, so not only was I tired, I was also frustrated. More of me was being requested and to be honest I didn’t know how to deal with it.
My job needed more of me, my kids needed more of me, my husband needed more of me and I needed more of me. I was getting to the point where I just wanted to be alone and not do anything but I couldn’t because we all know our children follow us even in bathroom.
I was frustrated all the time and I began to react out of frustration. I feel that as the nurturer of my house I set the mood, if I’m frustrated, my house is frustrated and it’s important to recognize when this is happening so you fix it right away. I play around with my husband and kids all the time about this. I tell them, “if your attitude stinks go outside and let’s try it again!” They know already that when they hear, “ do we need to go outside and try that again?” That means someone needs to check their attitude.
When, what do you need from me, became the answer to everything, I realized a reset was needed and I needed to check my own attitude!
I let this go on for about 2 months before I realized what was happening. We get so caught up in just doing life everyday that we forget to check ourselves and make sure that we are aligning with how God wants us to live our lives. God tells us to love him and love each other. To be completely transparent I know for a fact that when I’m frustrated, i am not very lovable. However, that’s not the type of person I am, that’s not who God created me to be and once I realized that i began correcting myself.
I started to get back on my routine. Waking up at 5am again but this time alone. I started giving myself an hour to prep the girls lunch and then just sit with the sunrise while sipping my coffee. That hour to myself in silence has been beautiful for my soul! I’m resetting myself and aligning myself so that my children, my family and everyone who encounters me gets the best version on me.
The next thing I plan to do is schedule a vacation. All of me needs to rest and I very rarely get to truly vacate. I encourage each of you to listen to God. Listen to your body. Don’t get so caught up I’m what’s happening that you can not lift up your head to see what direction you’re going in. In order to reach a destination you must always keep a look out on where you’re going.
How do you plan to reset yourself this week?